| lesley153
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Grace was good company? I don't remember you ever saying that before. Good company and more tact than her sister!
Even without the master's, surely you can still offer a string of qualifications that other people can only dream of?
Reply #1261. Jan 24 13, 9:41 PM
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Thanks Lesley, it's all about fulfilling potential and rising up the competitive pyramid, a master's is an academic/professional level with an authority people will use when required, which I know I also have for counselling but there is a huge amount less competition in criminology than counselling so far more work available as a result.
My strategy with Grace was making the best of the existing situation. As I see her regularly and assume the offer is open ended, I decided to see how she could grow on me over time in case it happened, and slowly it is. I wouldn't ever want to have a temporary relationship where if someone better did come along I'd move on, but stick with who I had and accept it. I've given up planning ahead on this one and am just watching it the same way you watch a TV soap to see how it develops, I am more an observer than anything else and if it gets to a point it is an attractive prospect I will buy my ticket. She's nothing like the usual women in her personality but sometimes that can improve from my point of view. Her sister is far nicer than she used to be, but still pushy as heck and forces her wishes on others (exactly like her mother) as if she's paid you to do so.
Weather and health permitting another photo trip is set up, south or west depending when I get up. Otherwise it's a bit of a rest from all the activity of the previous week plus the illness, and see if anything else happens. |
Reply #1262. Jan 25 13, 7:00 PM
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| lesley153
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You're welcome - and good luck, with the work and the soap-watching.
Not too far: it's snowing in Yorkshire.
Reply #1263. Jan 25 13, 7:50 PM
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| veronikkamarrz
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I 'think' I'm happy that you and Grace are getting on...But what exactly is "the usual woman?" I don't understand that...but I don't understand a lot of things!
Good luck, and keep watching. ;)
Reply #1264. Jan 25 13, 9:26 PM
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The usual women are ones I can talk to normally, have common interests and understanding, and basically have an adult conversation with. She has her moments but really not the sort of flow I'm used to. But I've had other girlfriends a bit like that before and managed so it's not something as fixed as some qualities. One from the 80s was the most attractive one before Grace's sister, but deadly boring and quiet, and 20 years later developed a proper personality and did become good company, after marrying someone else of course, but shows it can happen. Also if someone's an introvert and you push them they can come out of themselves, as she gradually is. Normally it wouldn't be a problem as a girlfriend is a revolving door, you stay with them unless it goes wrong and enjoy the experience while you can, but not having the option and only marriage is something out of Hans Andersen.
Carole arrived in London today, and then called to say the trains from London to here weren't running as closed for engineering, and wasn't getting the bus here. What a shame. So I didn't see her after all and am here doing this instead. It's not in doubt, two weeks with a bad throat and chest plus a wedding and the dentist has worn me out. I'll be 53 on Tuesday, not a great age and one where my grandparents travelled to Japan and the West Indies, and ran a shop in the centre of London. But I can't keep up now, probably as I have to do virtually everything myself without the benefit of a wife or parent, and means twice as much work gets expended in normal life as barely anything is shared. Otherwise it's just how I am physically and no idea what the reasons are besides nature.
So the weekend will continue and should get the new computer in a day or two and then need to transfer the data over before hooking it up (with the engineer now living abroad so all down to me now) and a free week ahead, and left a message on the machine for my newly married couple to come over on Tuesday as it's also his birthday a few days later and often do it as a joint effort. |
Reply #1265. Jan 26 13, 10:52 AM
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| lesley153
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I am very taken with your desire to bring her out of herself, and help her find a personality. Too many men look for a woman with a personality, so they can destroy it.
Reply #1266. Jan 26 13, 11:27 AM
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| Thanks Lesley, the situation is pretty much like the tasks given in many religious texts, where out of the blue you are sent a situation you would never have done otherwise and have to work out the best way to deal with it. I see it a bit like adding weight to a scales until it tips the other way, and would certainly rather find what I want right here than keep looking possibly forever. |
Reply #1267. Jan 26 13, 5:07 PM
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| lesley153
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You're not getting religion, are you?
Reply #1268. Jan 26 13, 5:18 PM
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Not religion, parables. The messages I worked out myself often appear in the bible and religious texts, and Shakespeare to a lesser extent. It just means, like TV producers, they understood life and human nature better than most and were clever enough to write it down and present it for others. You can chuck the religious element out entirely and still be left with the core messages.
Today went as well as it should, although the unusual looking sign on Streetview was new and nasty it did drag me off to Kent and as I had no sign to add to the collection decided to use my grid map and go a little further to make up for it and cover more uncharted territory instead, and carried on until a hailstorm made it get dark at 4.30, although I wasn't planning another detour to get any more by then. I'm looking forward to the spring, as my final two ambitions are to extend my maximum distance between two points since going digital (currently 122.8 miles), and get a 9th 100km square, probably in Cheltenham. Till then I am planning to go to Shenfield next for a road sign, which can take almost twice as long if the traffic is bad than otherwise, a journey I took a few times last year until I bypassed that route at Harold Wood and the same trip took almost half as long the final time. Back in the old days (2003 and earlier) I could do the whole way to Southend in the time it can take just to get to the M25.
I am getting the new computer for my birthday tomorrow assuming they still have it, the old one is now running at 100% half the time and can't be increased. It works perfectly so once I've sent the data onto the spare disk and then loaded it onto the new one everything should be fine and the old one will be a spare. The rest of the week is a slight mystery, the inevitable birthday being tomorrow (UK time that is, not US as it's still yesterday there), and asking a couple of extra people over to make it more special than a usual Tuesday. The rest of the day is likely to be setting the new computer up as otherwise it'll be getting in the way and doing nothing. I will also begin the search for a literary agent now I've had the method explained, which will also involve a trip to the library for a change. The new phone seems to work now, apart from one mystery call which didn't work properly the rest appears to be picking up interference from the laptop, something I thought was impossible especially as it's not wireless.
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Reply #1269. Jan 27 13, 8:32 PM
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| lesley153
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"You can chuck the religious element out entirely and still be left with the core messages." Yep, done that. Did that a long time ago!
How does Kent compare with your maximum distance?
If you come this way again, the offer of a cuppa still stands.
Reply #1270. Jan 27 13, 9:25 PM
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| Kent's a big county- Sundays are anywhere from Beckenham right on the edge to somewhere like Paddock Wood. In the 'golden age' when I could use Waterloo or London Bridge I could get on the A2 and be over the Medway in just over an hour on a good day, now it's either the Blackwall Tunnel which is not a nice route, or weekends. There are a few signs around Chatham which are pretty well out of reach now as it would take ages going round the houses to get there nowadays. If I head north this year I will remember you if on the way. Without using the M1 the A6 was absolute hell when I tried it last time, plus the centre of Luton was shut by the police and everyone went round the local roads on a diversion at 3mph. And to this day there are no signs to the A6 north in Luton, it's as if they're embarrassed it's there. |
Reply #1271. Jan 28 13, 1:49 PM
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| lesley153
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There are bypasses here and there to make it a little easier, particularly getting off the M1. The A6 is still closer though.
Reply #1272. Jan 28 13, 4:55 PM
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| lesley153
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Happy birthday, David! Have a lovely day.
# HBTY #
# HBTY #
# HBDD #
# HBTY #
If you play your cards right, I'll sing to you, not your answering machine!
Reply #1273. Jan 28 13, 5:57 PM
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Thanks a lot Lesley, and as you know it wasn't long before I got to the phone.
The reason I am writing this now is although the new computer was collected today the first job was to transfer all the data to the external drive to transfer when I swapped them over. I didn't know the official way to access my documents, by far the biggest sector, and the first click straight from the Windows button appeared to be accepted, but when I checked the drive when the rest was done they weren't there, and found it needed to go from my programs. I am now waiting for it to complete in maybe 40 more minutes and twiddling my thumbs (or writing this really) until it does, I check it's got my email messages on and can then unplug the old one and test the new, and will transfer the rest over tomorrow if it does work first time. I've never installed a PC before, the engineer emigrated and as installing Windows was the only professional task which isn't required here I assume it presents a blank screen with maybe Internet Explorer and the control panel and then have to find (the hard bit) and load (the boring bit) all my CDs with the software which I'm not supposed to copy over for whatever reason. The old computer will go into storage, unless my friend's one is dead after packing up last week, in which case it'll need wiping and go along to her.
I've got a few people coming tomorrow night now so something arranged, during the day besides setting up the computer the only other idea is to go to the library to (assuming it's there) get the Writer's Yearbook and copy the literary agents to contact. The local library is a bike ride away but don't know if they have it, while the other is a no parking zone in the other direction and not sure what I'd do if I needed to go there instead unless I go late after the parking's allowed. Otherwise I'll just let the day take care of itself.
I should keep up with the angel project again as well, I've been pretty taken up with real life the last week, maybe they made it easier, and I can get back to normal now all the hard work has been done for now. Of course even when you metaphorically retire or get demobbed it doesn't mean there's anything special waiting for you, just the absence of stress and pain. I filled in a nice patch of Bromley yesterday anyhow and bought the new computer and pair of trousers today, and will see what comes in now there's the time and space to use. |
Reply #1274. Jan 28 13, 8:40 PM
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| lesley153
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Yes - good chat. :) Good luck with all the transfers and clever things on your new computer. Enjoy your pressies and have a lovely day!
Reply #1275. Jan 28 13, 9:15 PM
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| Thanks Lesley, the docs are just about to complete, and remembered to list the programs I need as I won't have a computer to read them off once it's replaced. I'll unhook it tomorrow and fire the new one up and hope it starts first time, I've never done it before and don't know what to expect. |
Reply #1276. Jan 28 13, 10:02 PM
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| veronikkamarrz
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Happy Happy, David! Does this mean you are now truely 'OLD?" :)
In eight days, I will be 60...So, there you go.
Reply #1277. Jan 28 13, 10:34 PM
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Thanks a lot VM, well if it counts (I'd say it's the main thing) I feel the same, but 53 isn't so old I think. To think I had just turned 40 when I joined here, it's been longer than many marriaqes and even more jobs!
The new computer is wonderful, the Windows 8 pad format is dire, but you click a button and it returns to normal, although hoping I can set it permanently rather than see it return every so often. I only have the email to set up as currently I've managed to enter my details and get a white screen in return. I can get it online as well but that's not the point. I just downloaded free Windows Essentials which appears to fill many of the gaps left on the built in set, and hope that has a different email program which actually works. The visitors arrive around 8.30 and as it was raining had no chance to go anywhere first especially as I was using the bike. |
Reply #1278. Jan 29 13, 12:37 PM
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Thanks a lot VM, well if it counts (I'd say it's the main thing) I feel the same, but 53 isn't so old I think. To think I had just turned 40 when I joined here, it's been longer than many marriaqes and even more jobs!
The new computer is wonderful, the Windows 8 pad format is dire, but you click a button and it returns to normal, although hoping I can set it permanently rather than see it return every so often. I only have the email to set up as currently I've managed to enter my details and get a white screen in return. I can get it online as well but that's not the point. I just downloaded free Windows Essentials which appears to fill many of the gaps left on the built in programs, but so far the new Outlook is only online and don't need all that junk, I'm happy with the old system. |
Reply #1279. Jan 29 13, 12:41 PM
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I may send a message if this isn't spotted but if someone equipped could delete the duplicate post it would be appreciated.
My birthday was productive, I spent 5 hours setting up the new computer before the visitors arrived, and then learnt Windows 8 after they'd gone. Today when I got home I started loading my software on, and the first restart was taking ages, and then more visitors arrived as they'd just been for a meal nearby, and realised three hours later the whole thing had crashed, and would I need to reconnect the old PC after 48 hours, but thank goodness it was a standard crash (Windows never really changes basically whatever the current presentation, it's done that from my old 98 version onwards), and Internet Explorer is still riddled with bugs as it chewed up my mum's Waitrose order I spent 2 hours helping with and had to switch to Firefox as it wouldn't log her in half way through whatever we pressed.
Tomorrow is clear all day (I probably need it), I have a few hours of videos saved up, and may save the next photo trip for the weekend as the others are a bit of a way when it still gets dark early. If not apart from going to buy a memory card for the phone as six photos in it's already full so do need extra as each photo links with a name in the directory. If the angels want a job then sort me out with something nice tomorrow. I can't think of everything all the time, and without a wife or girlfriend to lead the show at times then it can't always be down to me alone. |
Reply #1280. Jan 30 13, 6:24 PM
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