To pammidgett, you are so right. I have a friend who calls me nightly because she "loves to hear my voice", but she dominates the conversation. When I do get to say something, she will sometimes start yelling at her husband or one of her dogs, then when she comes back, she starts talking about something else changing the topic. If I complain she acts wounded and tries to make me feel guilty. I would kick her to the curb, but that's what too many people have done. |
Reply #801. Jul 13 12, 2:58 PM
Interrupting someone´s speech is a nasty habit, but on the other hand, there are people who never know when to stop talking and allow other people to say something - a collegue of mine is like that. She tells a story and for a great success she is able to tell the story over and over. I had to learn how to interrupt her because she would talk herself silly:)|
Reply #802. Jul 13 12, 4:03 PM
Talking to my sister, I can tell that what I'm saying is not been heard. So I try to just listen to her and not say a lot myself. It's very annoying. If I have to make plans with her, I'm never sure if she's even going to show up when she's supposed too. She usually get's the date or time wrong. If I say anything she get really mad at me. She 70, but she's been like this for a long time so it's not just her age.She complains about everyone and everything.It's becoming very difficult dealing with her. I've tried talking to her about how I feel but it only causes more problems so I try to keep my mouth shut. |
Reply #803. Jul 13 12, 5:40 PM
For longer than I dare remember or want to think about, I got three or four calls a week, lasting about an hour and a half each, from a woman who had been unlucky in love and wanted the whole world to know about it. Everyone she knew, and a lot of people she didn't know, were regaled with stories of purely imaginary deception and betrayal. Real people, delusional scenario. She talked about it while she was working and while she was walking the dog. The rest of her waking moments, she was on the phone, telling anyone who would answer. |
Other people she did it to told me to do what they did - put the phone down, go and make a cup of tea, come back, she'll still be talking and she won't even notice you've gone. They were probably right. If I, under the delusion that a phone call is a conversation is a two-way exercise, attempted to speak, she would raise her voice. If I persisted, she would end up shouting till I gave up.
I put up with it for a couple of years because I felt sorry for her, goodness knows why. Once I came off the phone while sprog was in the house. He looked at me, said sit down, don't say a word. My blood pressure was nearly 200 over nearly 100.
After a while, she calmed down a bit. She'd had help, including therapy and advice, and lessons in talking to people! The phone calls became less frequent, quieter, shorter. She allowed me to contribute, and pretended she was interested. If you were face to face, she would look at you, with her head slightly tilted, and a rehearsed "I'm listening" look on her face, although you could tell that nothing anyone said went in, because all she wanted was an audience, so she wouldn't be accused of talking to herself.
She also started ending her phone calls with that most irritating and patronising expression: "Well, I'll let you go." Whoever thought that ending a conversation with "I'm doing you a big favour" was a good idea really should have thought of something else.
It did not escape her notice that I stopped phoning her, or that I stopped inviting her to concerts with me, because she was always late. She was very upset when I told her about a concert and said see you there - and I'd gone with someone else who wasn't always late!
She did phone me a couple of times to say it would be nice to hear from me, and then she gave up. I haven't spoken to her for about a year, and my mental and physical health are all the better for it.
Reply #804. Jul 14 12, 6:22 AM
1. Parents who let their kids treat movie theatres & restaurants like playgrounds.|
2. Favourite T.V shows being cancelled.
3. People who seem to have trouble minding their own business.
Reply #805. Jul 14 12, 8:16 PM
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