| lesley153
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After three quarters of an hour (felt like longer) listening to a non-stop ooze of self-pity last week, I was surprisingly depressed. Some of it, like her health problems (she talked about her heart in some detail, and hinted darkly at other medical conditions), would have been outside her control: some of it, like the fact that they had no family around when their children were born, were more within their control - you move to a new country, you have no right to whinge when your family is out of reach: and the rest of it - what superior, rich, intelligent, educated, successful families she and her husband came from - was just plain boring, irrelevant, annoying. Nothing she said was positive.
Oh yes - there was one ray of light: she didn't have any health problems when her first child was born.
"I am here to get stronger. I am interested in my brighter future, not in your past." But do we say that? No. We just say "Bye. See you next week." And it left me surprisingly deflated, not to mention irritated with myself for having stood and listened to it.
I rang a friend who'd been away, spending five or six days in a friend's seaside cottage. How was it? It was terrible, she'd hated every minute of it, and she'd told her OH that she wanted to go home, so they came back two days early. Then she'd gone back to work, and fallen. One minute she's vertical, walking in a straight line in sensible shoes on a dry floor, then a split second later she's lying on the (stone) floor, with no recollection of how she got there. Much pain, much bruising, pain-killers, anti-inflammatories, can't apply soothing heat to the hurty bits because it's too hot, can't move, can't sleep...
Phoned another friend who asked me if I'd seen a programme on TV the other night about abuse in care homes, orphanages, nursing homes. Anywhere people are institutionalised, there is cruelty beyond human comprehension. She's recorded it. Next time I come, I can watch it. Oh goody. I can hardly wait.
I'm scared to ring anyone else now because I'll end up as miserable as them. *sniff* Anyone got anything happy for me? |
Reply #2781. Jun 05 11, 11:17 AM
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| lesley153
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Ooh that's lovely, thank you.
It looks like a lime ice lolly.
Doesn't matter what it tastes like - it's smiling. :) |
Reply #2783. Jun 05 11, 12:40 PM
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| veronikkamarrz
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Yes, I actually have a little 'happy' medical stuff...Really! My annual MD appointment, found my A1C (diabetes) at 6, my cholesterol (both) in the good range, and best of all---Wait for it: I've lost twenty two and a half pounds!:) How many stone is that?
Reply #2784. Jun 05 11, 9:47 PM
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| lesley153
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Thank you - that's two bits of happy stuff.
An A1C of 6 is miraculous. Stepping away from the chocolate?
That's just over a stone and a half, and I bet you can tell the difference. I lost 21 pounds (exactly a stone and a half) in March last year and it felt really good.
Difference is, I lost mine thanks to chemicals and you probably lost yours on will power. I salute your strength of character. |
Reply #2785. Jun 06 11, 5:33 AM
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| C30
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....and there was I feeling all smug because I have (currently), lost 17lbs.......was 17st 1lb in March - now 15st 12lbs (or was yesterday).
Blood test 28th June........cardiac "MOT" on 1st July.
I take it you don't want to hear more Lesley? Lol
Reply #2786. Jun 06 11, 7:25 AM
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Professer 
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Lesley you are brilliant let no one tell you any other stuff other then that.
Am happy all bills paid upto date for another month have decided that june stops on this day till july that way i miss my Birthday :). Halth probs still same but i am smiling as is warm and sunny.
Reply #2787. Jun 06 11, 8:02 AM
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| lesley153
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Ray, well done on slimming down - I bet you're even more gorgeous than you were in March? and good luck with your next 1,000-mile service. Thank you, Gary. That's a nice image, you sitting in the middle of a heap of bills and ignoring them all because you're grinning in the sunshine.
If someone has problems, I can be as sympathetic as anyone else. It's the long-faced whining I can't stand. Whiny whiny whinge whinge ARGH! And talking about human cruelty with fast angry words that send my blood pressure up. Please don't do that. I'm perfectly capable of appreciating human misery without histrionics to illustrate it.
Last week I was expecting to hear from someone about updating my central heating system. Not a word all week - are you OK? I heard from him this morning. He'd been ill all week. Thought it was a cold to start with, then he got raised red itchy bumps all over his body, felt bad enough to spend much of the week in bed, and no idea what had caused it. The only thing he'd done out of the ordinary was go out for a meal, decide it needed a bit of help, pep it up with some whole green chillies.
A friend of his suggested it was stress. I doubt it. Stress does lots of things, but doesn't give you urticaria. Sounds like a massive allergic reaction. I googled allergy green chillies and got this:
"A 33-year-old forklift driver named Andrew Lee from Doncaster in northern England seems to be the first person on record to die of voluntary chili overdose."
 http://www.newscientist.com/blogs/shortsharpscience/2008/09/how-chilis-can-kill.html
Scary! It may be a while before he touches another one. |
Reply #2788. Jun 06 11, 9:07 AM
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| lesley153
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| Psssst *leans in and whispers* Gary's birthday is 25th June. Don't tell him I told you. |
Reply #2789. Jun 06 11, 9:10 AM
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Rowena8482
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I actually used to have a word document with "Aunty Rowena's Patented "Don't do that with chilis, it's dangerous"" lecture all ready to go, and as I reach this point, I realise that the rest of the tale is utterly unsuitable for this site so can say no more :-#
Reply #2790. Jun 06 11, 9:20 AM
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Jazmee27
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I cringe whenever I get a letter from my one pen pal, not because I don't want to hear from him, but because he goes into such graphic detail. Tell me someone's sicck or hasn't been feeling well, but don't tell me he or she got such and such done at such and such a time, then this done at that time, or now you have this problem, and this and this and this, and on and on and on for ten pages... aaaaagh!
Rant done
Reply #2791. Jun 06 11, 9:45 AM
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| lesley153
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Rowena, I eagerly await a chili-related email thankyouplease.
Jazmee, I don't appreciate the graphic detail either. It's OK - just - if it's relevant, but it rarely is, and not everyone has a sense of what is appropriate. I cringe when my cousin, most of whose conversation is about illness, attempts to tell me about his relatives' medical conditions, including some observations which really aren't fit to see daylight. He doesn't seem to understand words like Appropriate and Breach of Confidence.
Someone else I knew explained to me why she hadn't had children, and she went into surprising detail about her husband's equipment. No, please don't tell me, I don't need to know. No, really, I DON'T NEED TO KNOW! |
Reply #2792. Jun 06 11, 10:12 AM
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Professer
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Have got David Cameron to pass a act of Parliament abolishing the 25th
Reply #2793. Jun 06 11, 10:43 AM
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| lesley153
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| Nice try. Got anything better to offer? |
Reply #2794. Jun 06 11, 1:38 PM
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Professer
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ermm ok am off to live in a kibbutz (not sure i spelt that right no computer access )
Reply #2795. Jun 06 11, 2:09 PM
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| lesley153
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| How is living on a kibbutz going to help? You can't keep the Boy David and his coffee-boy Nick from visiting, specially if there are lots of nice photo-opportunities. Confused. :$ |
Reply #2796. Jun 06 11, 2:13 PM
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REDVIKING57
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'Got David Cameron to pass an Act of Parliament'? Don't be daft,Gary. That would entail a politician listening to one of 'The Great Unwashed' - AKA a member of the electorate! :))
My wife's birthday on the 9th................Mustn't forget..........Or should I? Could be kinder...........:))
But she'll always be 24 to me. So I'd better book a table!
Reply #2797. Jun 07 11, 5:00 AM
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| C30
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Red..........the birthday of my wife is 2nd June........want me to give you a reminder next year that 9th aint far off? Lol
Must have a "thing" about females with birthdays in June....my mother's was 21st June and my first "steady" girlfriend was 4th June......
Me? Nah ! December!
Reply #2798. Jun 07 11, 8:02 AM
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| lesley153
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My mother was born on the 5th, husband on the 7th, and brother on the 24th. I have far too many June-born friends too. Spooky.
Me? nah. March. :) |
Reply #2799. Jun 07 11, 8:07 AM
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Jazmee27
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I know three (make that four) June birthdays: one friend the tenth, another the eleventh, a cousin the twenty-first, and Grandma the twenty-sixth (oops, a fifth one would be Michael's ex on the twenty-fifth)
Me? I got stuck with January :-)
Reply #2800. Jun 07 11, 11:27 AM
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