Professer is here now - Message Board

I agree with Trojan. Sometimes the best thing we can do for anyone is support and encourage them, and I've been grateful for more than my fair share of support and encouragement from you lot, specially over the last year when I was feeling dreadful and struggling to find out why.

But I do think there's a limit, and I have recently become increasingly worried about Gary, as his distress for his friend has taken over his whole life, and threatens to make him ill. I am concerned that his concern is blocking out everything that is good, and he will eventually see only the bad.

Sympathy can only go so far. I think there's a point after which we do more good by finding ways to encourage Gary to keep his head above water.

And this isn't new. I've said something along these lines to Gary more than once - please stop concentrating on all the bad things, and try to focus on the good too, before you forget how to.

Gary, perhaps (I hope) your GP will have advice for you to help you cope. But, for now, I would like to add my voice to this piece of advice:

"Pick yourself up, give yourself a shake and a stern talking to....and start planning for your next trip."

(((((())))))

Reply #42. Jun 09 10, 9:36 PM

honeybee4

When you are in constant pain as Gary is because of the fibromialgia, topped off by the terrible accident that his friend was in, it is hard to think of anything else. It is well known that stress aggravates fibromialgia. I am glad that Gary has a place to come to talk about it. For his own sake he needs to cheer up, and he will.

Reply #43. Jun 09 10, 9:50 PM

I neither agree or disagree with trojan. I merely asked a question.

I cannot tell anyone how they should feel or not feel.

I've said more to Gary than is posted in Fun Trivia. I hope he takes it to heart.

Reply #44. Jun 09 10, 9:53 PM

trojan11

Control issues Deunan? You have obviously heard about my ailing prostate.
I did say that you 'seem' angry, not that you were angry. Your follow-up, whichever way one reads it, was defensive. Merely, it would seem (please note the word - seem) because I disagreed with you and had the temerity to say so. Your own phrase, 'control issues?', springs to mind.

Please note, that I do not in any way mean to denigrate the clearly valid and valued friendship shown by responders to this blog, in any way. Merely that I disagree with the tone as a helpful vehicle for the OP.

And now, if you will forgive me, I must prepare my cane for the mornings first lesson in order to thrash any recalcitrant 12th grade students who display unwanton signs of free thinking or, dare I say, lack of attention.

As a matter of fact, I'm bloody late and really must trot off.

Reply #45. Jun 10 10, 9:07 AM

Professor, how are you doing today?

Reply #46. Jun 10 10, 9:25 AM

Sorry, Professer, I was in too big of a hurry to find out how you are.

Reply #47. Jun 10 10, 9:48 AM

Deunan have been shopping had a cheese omelette at my mums and am now at home trying to relax before making a list for the doctor tomorrow.

I am hoping you are well and my other FT friends, me i am about the same but then as it offends Trojan i best not really comment.

Reply #48. Jun 10 10, 10:42 AM

Cheese omelette sounds OK! all warm and unctuous... Haven't had one of those for ages.
Nobody's offended, Gary - why should they be? We all wish you health and peace of mind, but nobody wants to see you swimming in a sea of unproductive sympathy and going under.
And we all have different ways of expressing ourselves, none of which warrants bitterness or anger.
Going to have potato salad and hard-boiled egg now, because it's ready. I can see me treating myself to a cheese omelette later. *drool*

Reply #49. Jun 10 10, 11:51 AM

satguru

No one on this site means any harm Gary, we boot them out long before it gets that far ;) Now if you use blogspot (or worse still Youtube) that's a different game of soldiers. I get plenty of stick over global warming (let alone my own personal life over on Blogspot) but then again I get just as much in the real world except many would be far too scared to say the same things face to face. As long as you know you've done nothing wrong it makes no difference what anyone else says.

Reply #50. Jun 10 10, 6:28 PM

trojan11

Re: reply 48. "me i am about the same but then as it offends Trojan i best really not comment."

Very well done, professor. You have shown restraint concerning your ills. Courageous, and difficult, I know. So, again, well done.

As for offending me. No such thing. I just popped in, had a word or two, and now I shall pop off again. Good luck. Unless, of course, I hear that you are sliding back.....then, I shall return, hec-hec-hec.

Reply #51. Jun 10 10, 6:47 PM

"Going to have potato salad and hard-boiled egg now, because it's ready. I can see me treating myself to a cheese omelette later. *drool*"

Lesley hope you enjoyed your meal, am still hit and miss on what i am eating but then thats life at the moment off to Doctors shortly have a list made out as was advised to do. should be fun.

Reply #52. Jun 11 10, 12:50 AM

Thanks, Gary, I did. Your appetite will come back slowly, as you think of things that appeal to you, and it might be something as simple as something that someone else has mentioned, like a tangerine, or a few blueberries.

I hope your doctor helped your mind and your body.

Reply #53. Jun 11 10, 7:15 AM

Trojan, I hope you will pop back, not just to stop Gary sliding back.

Reply #54. Jun 11 10, 7:16 AM

reeshy

Professer, I know how hard it is to cope with fibromyalgia and other things, so I hope you start feeling better soon! :)

Reply #55. Jun 11 10, 9:52 AM

Professer, I am interested in how the doctor visit went. You can always private message me if you prefer.

Hugs.

Reply #56. Jun 11 10, 10:42 AM

Will email you Deunan don't want to upset Trojan lol

Reply #57. Jun 11 10, 11:13 AM

Perhaps he should start a virtual blog.

Reply #58. Jun 11 10, 11:19 AM