Addendum
Make that four weddings (see the post below this one)... another friend of mine popped the question late last week... I'm going to be spending a small fortune in presents.
So, I was thinking, all of my friends are getting married now, a couple of them already had kids. Me, I'm still single and available. What's wrong here? Am I just unlucky in love, or not ready yet, or what? I know I can't force it, but it's still a question that's been gnawing away at me for a while now. It's not that I don't have my share of relationships, but I just haven't met the woman that has swept me off of my feet, the one I'll want to spend the rest of my life with, the lady of my life.
I don't think I'm too picky or overly critical for wanting to marry once, and forever, for wanting to make the correct choice, for wanting to be 110% sure. Am I?
5 Comments:
My oldest son is 32 snd is gettimng married for the 1st time in August
He fiancee is wonderful and Im glad he waited till he knew he found the right person to share his life with
By debbie482, Jul 09 06 8:51 AM
Oh, buddy, don't rush it. At the risk of sounding cynical, let me say that ALL (but one) of my friends who married before the age of 30 have been divorced. Some more than once. We're talking a couple of dozen guys here - do you realize what that adds up to in tuxedo rentals *sigh*? I think it boils down to this: you have to grow into your own skin before you can expect someone to join you in that skin [if that makes sense]. You're a smart guy, though, so I don't see you flying solo forever. Nor do I see you hooking up with somebody because you feel you need to (those ticking clocks and so forth). The best time to hook up will be when you just can't help it, because it can't happen any other way. And, I'm here to say, there's no age limit on having that happen.
By Gatsby722, Jul 09 06 10:16 AM
I met my fiance online at match.com - I totally didn't think it would happen to me there. Just don't worry about finding 'the one' and it will happen when it's supposed to.
By ladymacb29, Jul 09 06 4:46 PM
I've gotta agree with you, Leo, on waiting to find the right person. Me, I haven't even found anyone I would want to date, much less marry! I've seen marriages that seem to be continued just out of convenience, when the spark of love is gone. I don't want that.
By pu2-ke-qi-ri, Jul 10 06 3:51 PM
Don't put yourself on a timer. You'll drive yourself nuts, and that feeling of constant pressure won't help when you're trying to decide if someone is right for you for the rest of your life! It's worth taking some extra time to do it once and do it right.
In terms of inspiring anecdotes, my dad married my mother when he was 40 (she was 35). It took him that long! But they're still together, have two grown kids, and no regrets about meeting when they did. They honestly think that they would have wound up together if they had met in their 20s -- they were totally different people.
Bottom line, trust yourself and your judgment. You're doing great so far.
By CellarDoor, Jul 23 06 10:51 AM