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Good lord. I so wish the British legal system would make up its mind. This is kinda funny in that it would be funnier were I not in the middle of it way. My love's solicitor looked in to the cost of flying me over to testify last week. Let's just say a round-trip flight to London on less than a weeks notice is very pricey. The court would have had to pay the cost, so that was right out. Now, the solicitor seemed to miss one very important point in this from the get go, I don't have a passport. I don't care how much pull a judge has, he can't get around that. So, that was right out. He added up the costs for this video conference thing and it came to $800 US. Again, that's the courts dime not mine. Too expensive and I can't get the day off work no matter what to do it. Finally, my love convinced the solicitor that if I'm left unemployed because I take an un-authorized day off work, we won't have a case. There are two gripes here. Gripe #1, I said the same exact thing to his solicitor and he brushed it aside! Now, I have a huge problem with men who take something as more true when it comes from the mouth of another man, it seems my love's solicitor is one of those men. Gripe #2 is if I had taken an un-authorized day off because they bullied me in to it, his ex's solicotors would have played up the fact that I was unemployed while totally ignoring that they created that situation in the first place. Damned if I do, damend if I don't. They've pretty much said that the judge and her solicitors don't want a conference call because they can't see my face. That's the only way we can work it, so now they again think I won't have to testify. Tell ya what, you guys hash it out and let me know huh? I feel like I'm expected to be on hold for the next few days just in case and my life can't run like that. I feel guilty because my life has to go on as normal while he's right now on his way to London to start this fiasco tomorrow. Oh and today is a bank holiday over there. So, all these hurry up and wait people have the day off! Marvie. Last night, I was asked to prepare some more information. My nerves are on edge and I snapped. I made it as clear as I could to him that I wasn't yelling at him, just yelling. I asked if the court will next want to know what we'll do should an alien craft land on my front lawn. Some of the stuff they want to know is on that level of being completely ridiculous. I've made it clear I don't rely on benefits, but they want a complete list of which state benefits are available. I threw in a line about not being a professional welfare recipient as a slight dig towards his ex who is a professional welfare case. The way it was worder was genius if I do say so myself. Fine, they want to know that there is help should a family fall on hard times, but I'm starting to feel like they want us to have a concrete plan for every little thing. I have four psychology projects due this week on top of this court stuff. I feel bad about focusing on school while he's literally fighting for our lives, but my schooling is a big part of our future.
On to slightly more pleasant news. My friend is expecting her second child around Christmas time. Her son is 8 months old and frankly,I think she's out of her gourd having another baby right away, but she's the one giving birth not me. I wish her nothing but happy thoughts, she loves kids. Her son is one lucky little man. Loved just doesn't begin to cover it. That kid is worshiped. We're thinking girly thoughts this time. A friend of hers hates kids. Hey, fine, don't have any. But, she goes beyond that. She has parties when my friend is home then tells her she can't bring the baby because she doesn't want him touching her stuff. She's 30 for crying out loud, she acts like she's 5. He's a baby, what is he going to touch really? Now, she made some snarky comment about people having "herds" of children. This woman is miss wrong thing at the wrong time. It's not her body, it's not her baby. I think she should either be happy and congratulatory or she should just keep her evil mouth shut. The mood I'm in, I may just shut it for her. This friend, by the way, is the one who lost her first baby and almost died. If she wants 20 kids and can have them safely, then by God, she's having 20 kids and the rest of us will love each and every one of them. Why can't some people just be happy for others? I don't get it.
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How about a life sized cardboard cut out of you, and cut out the lips and have your voice behind it..they'd have to pay for postage though..unbelievable. xxx
By kells40, May 08 07 3:45 AM
Am I glad I found where the blogs went LOL. I was wondering what's going on in your world.
This whole thing gets pretty strange...sounds like the court system over there is as whacky as they are over here. Do they think all unmarried women are welfare queens or what? And why do they want to "look" at you for...trying to get you on body language as well? LOL.
Maybe you should keep your super soaker in plain view.
Yep, theres one of those people in every crowd who dont want kids at their house. I knew some that requested that kids stay away from their weddings as well. In my home, when I know theres little kids coming, I put the good stuff out of reach. Sometimes I will hold an object that catches their eye and let them touch it to get it out of their system. I had my first two a year and a half apart...close enough to be playmates, when one outgrew clothes, the other fit right into them...especially play clothes. I didnt find it hard having 2 so close together. The next was a 4 year difference, then a 3 year difference with the last. I remember when I was pregnant with my last in 1975, I was pushing one in a stroller, and the 2 older were on both sides of me, and I had my friends little girl with us (in Chicago) on the way to the park...some woman actually walked up to me and asked if I ever heard of the population explosion. I never forgot that LOL.
Anyhow, if anyone said my kids werent welcome when I visited, I didnt go. Period. Especially when kids are pretty well behaved, I cant see a problem. Besides, theres nothing I had in common with them anymore...and would find it boring looking at all their pretty things displayed. Oh Groan LOL!!!
I will be waiting for the next episode of the "The Courtroom Across the Pond" soap opera...My Best to you ~Joanie~
By joaniem, May 08 07 5:56 AM
Hadn't thought of that, Kells. Maybe a me shaped muppet?
Yeah, I do think they tend to believe we're all welfare queens. Well, I'm not. I don't know maybe they want to look at me to see how much better he's done for himself this time? Oh, that was mean. If it happens, I will keep my super soaker with the blue dye in plain sight at all times.
I completely agree with you, Joanie. The minute my friends made my kids feel unwelcome, we'd stop being friends. We have nothing more in common. I'd have told that nosy woman that yes, in fact I had heard of it and it started when things got boring around the old homestead. Or I'd have said, "Oh, they aren't mine, I've been snatching them randomly from Chicago, by the way, do you have any children?" Ok, that's evil.
By IndieQueen, May 08 07 4:08 PM
ROFL ~ I was going to say something about youre being alot more attractive than she is...but I dont know what you look like. I just had a feeling is all :) Looks arent everything either, but I know for a fact your character is beyond reproach, so that alone makes you beautiful.
I dont think I said anything back to that woman about her comment. She was probably part of the new womans lib movement. However, I remember thinking that she reminded me of a dried up old nun I had back in Pa. who was the nastiest woman & should never had been allowed to be around children! (Not meant to offend Catholics out there, and I did know one pretty one who was fun) ~Joanie~
By joaniem, May 09 07 2:01 AM
A you shaped muppet? Mith? Mith? Miiiith? I love it!
By kells40, May 09 07 5:45 AM
I'm usually not that shallow about looks, but from what he's said, she's not exactly taken care of herself over the years. I'm not evil and vindictive like her, so that makes me a beatuy queen from my perspective. I'll post a pic from Christmas, then you can see me and him.
The thing about those hard-core women's lib types is they don't quite get that a woman choosing to have 3 or 4 or 15 kids is a woman exercising her liberation. If she chooses it, who are other women to judge? While some women want careers and no families, some want both and some want to be stay-at-home moms. They're choosing and that's liberation. Maybe she was jealous because she was lacking in the act that produces children. :)
By IndieQueen, May 09 07 8:38 AM