The plot thickens
Just got off the phone with my love. It seems that court appointed idiot did not do his job thorougly and relied on heresay instead of asking people things directly. In short, he took the word of crazy bat ex when she said that his daughter is always late for school. What he didn't do was ask the school. He put information in his report that has not been confirmed. Essentially, he lied. My fiance's solicitor thinks we have him over a barrel now. I hope so. He has also ruled out me being questioned as I can not fly over there on such short notice. It would cost a fortune that the court would have to pay for and I can't take the time off work. He also said that the only place video evidence could be done is a hotel in Pittsburgh which is 45 minutes away from my home. According to him, the court would have to cover my lost wages for the time I have to be there and any transportation costs. It can't be done. Plus, I want my own attorney present if I'm going to be questioned and I don't have time to find one. So, it appears things are turning around for the better, but I just don't know. I told him last night that he can get over losing me much easier than he could ever get over losing his daughter. He won't lose her, but if my being out of the picture makes his life easier, maybe we should just call it all off. I've weathered every storm with him and court appointed idiot has the nerve to say that our relationship is not tested. What the hell does that even mean? It's been tested to outer reaches by people who have no business in it to begin with. It's been two years for crying out loud. Well, almost two years. Yes, it's been tested. We don't live in the same country, true enough, but to say that our relationship is somehow less real based on that is ignorant and arrogant. I hate to play the nationality card, but this wouldn't be an issue if I was English. I'm an American, I think this guy has a huge problem with that. Silly me, I fell in love with a man from another country. Yes, I deserve to be punished for the rest of my life for that.
6 Comments:
Well, it really doesnt look as bleak as it did in the last blog. It's not over 'til its over, and it sounds like his solicitor is on top of things.
I have been wondering what you have to do with this whole thing anyhow. Is he not permitted to date or fall in love since he has a child? Is her so called fiance better than you are? Is he being brought into this whole mess as well? Why don't you two simply get married which would make the situation more stable in the eyes of God and Country for the child? Is his child being questioned, and has a preference as to where to live?
As you can see, this whole thing goes over my head. I have been through divorce in my younger years...had 2 children...been through the adoption of them by my hubby, been through all kinds of things with lawyers through the years...some good, some bad and unfair. Yes, the bad guy wins sometimes. It's all hurry up and wait and takes its toll in stress levels rising to the point of illness, and can almost break a person financially, even when youre the victim and in the right. I can feel your stress level rising with every post. I would suggest you write a journal ~ and turn it into a novel someday, hopefully with a happy ending :) I am not making light of your situation...I am dead serious.
I am happy that Terry will let the blogs stay for awhile, but when he feels its time to let them go, well, its going to be like reading a book with the last chapters torn out. Yes, the funtrivia community does have caring and supportive people. Perhaps we were all brought together for a purpose...this blog has been more of a blessing than anything else....and its not being realized until we are faced with losing it :( ~Joanie~
By joaniem, May 03 07 10:45 AM
Apparently, he isn't. At least according to his ex. I'm sure she feels that her live in is better than both of us. We'll just ignore the fact that he doesn't work either. In fact, neither of them has had a job in the past 10 years. He's not being brought in to this mess the way I am. He should be, but they live together, so that's pretty much settled. We can't just get married and be done with it. They have no problem with us being married, they have a problem wiht him taking his daughter out of the country to be with me.
She wrote a letter to the judge making her feelings clear. Court appointed idiot told the school not to send it. We don't know what she said in the letter, we felt it was better that way. Why court appointed idiot told the school not to send it is beyond me.
I have to call his solicitor. I don't know what he wants or why he needs to talk to me, but I've about had all I can take.
By IndieQueen, May 03 07 11:53 AM
If you had all you could take, you would not go to the lengths you are to keep yourself in this situation. You must love the man an awful lot to let it go this far. Most would have chucked it a long time ago. It's difficult being on this side of the pond, waiting to hear what is going on there.
It's beyond me how two people can live together and neither has jobs. Is that due to a welfare system over there of some kind that supports them? It's not a healthy situation for the child to be used and be put in the middle of this simply because the mother wants to hurt the father that bad. I take it, he would rather live over here, and you dont want to live over there.
I will be waiting for the next episode...and hang in there girl, just a little bit longer. Wait to see what the court rules, and then go from there. ~Joanie~
By joaniem, May 03 07 1:30 PM
"I told him last night that he can get over losing me much easier than he could ever get over losing his daughter. He won't lose her, but if my being out of the picture makes his life easier, maybe we should just call it all off."
What a selfless and brave thing to say.
I'm glad things are looking up a little since your last post - I never made a comment then, because I honestly didn't know what to say. Now, I just want to wish you and the fiance - and his daughter - the best of luck. Hopefully it works out for the best for all of you. And quickly.
By ainenei, May 03 07 3:19 PM
Christ! She can write can she?
Bring on the wedding... I have my speech half written already, and my Doc Martens are all polished and shiny.. that is, unless I wear them at band night tonight, then they;ll be covered with cigarette ash and Bacardi!
By kells40, May 04 07 3:26 AM
I hope that you and your fiancé can stay together. You must really care a lot about him, and I wouldn't say otherwise. I just have a "sixth sense" that you won't be separated...there's much too deep a bond not to.
Hope it all works out and that the wedding is the best for both of you! :)
By dg_dave, May 05 07 10:27 PM