The Situation
OK. So, this is the first part of the whole story uptil now. Read my previous post "The graph is going up...and life is coming down....." if you wanna know what I'm talking about.
So, what the whole situation is. Divya (as my regular readers must be knowing, if not, then she's my best friend) got into a lot of trouble these past few days. We have a common "friend" of whom we knew that he liked Divya. Recently, even though not directly, he kinda proposed to her, more like an invitation to be with him, I mean like, kind of a girl friend and stuff. And Divya, although she doesn't feel the same way, values his friendship. All of this got us into trouble. She didn't know what to do and he was insisting, rather forcing her to say yes, but she wouldn't and she turned to me for help. All I did was adivse her to tell him that she valued his friendship more than any other relationship that he might wanna get into.
But among this, another problem was that this guy is very introvert. He wouldn't speak out. Even though he said all of this online, he wouldn't ask her the same question if front of her. And he even asked her not tell about this to anyone. Now, Divya doesn't want this kinda relation with him, so she wanted to deny it. But at the same time, she didn't want to lose his friendship too. Divya wanted to say what I told her to tell him, in front of him. But he just wouldn't talk to her. Now probably she wanted to tell all of this to him, and therefore tried to make him talk to her. And in this process, I started feeling ignored. And probably this is what messed up the whole thing. And later, Divya admitted too and probably she was ignoring me too. Then I lot of times I felt that she didn't need me anymore and a whole lot of stupid negative thoughts crossed my mind.
Then recently, we had a talk and probably we talked every little misunderstaning out......she said that she would try to tell that guy what the exact truth was and stuff. And I am a little happy too cuz things have started to look bright again....finally I think I have someone to look upto at all times....someone who'll be very much there. And probably, I don't need to wait for that friend anymore now....I guess I have found her. I hope that things stay the same way again, and Divya doesn't lose his friendship too.
I have a bright and sunny morning to look forward to, tomorrow morning.
And I guess I'll have to write some more on another certain topic.
Sid
So, what the whole situation is. Divya (as my regular readers must be knowing, if not, then she's my best friend) got into a lot of trouble these past few days. We have a common "friend" of whom we knew that he liked Divya. Recently, even though not directly, he kinda proposed to her, more like an invitation to be with him, I mean like, kind of a girl friend and stuff. And Divya, although she doesn't feel the same way, values his friendship. All of this got us into trouble. She didn't know what to do and he was insisting, rather forcing her to say yes, but she wouldn't and she turned to me for help. All I did was adivse her to tell him that she valued his friendship more than any other relationship that he might wanna get into.
But among this, another problem was that this guy is very introvert. He wouldn't speak out. Even though he said all of this online, he wouldn't ask her the same question if front of her. And he even asked her not tell about this to anyone. Now, Divya doesn't want this kinda relation with him, so she wanted to deny it. But at the same time, she didn't want to lose his friendship too. Divya wanted to say what I told her to tell him, in front of him. But he just wouldn't talk to her. Now probably she wanted to tell all of this to him, and therefore tried to make him talk to her. And in this process, I started feeling ignored. And probably this is what messed up the whole thing. And later, Divya admitted too and probably she was ignoring me too. Then I lot of times I felt that she didn't need me anymore and a whole lot of stupid negative thoughts crossed my mind.
Then recently, we had a talk and probably we talked every little misunderstaning out......she said that she would try to tell that guy what the exact truth was and stuff. And I am a little happy too cuz things have started to look bright again....finally I think I have someone to look upto at all times....someone who'll be very much there. And probably, I don't need to wait for that friend anymore now....I guess I have found her. I hope that things stay the same way again, and Divya doesn't lose his friendship too.
I have a bright and sunny morning to look forward to, tomorrow morning.
And I guess I'll have to write some more on another certain topic.
Sid
3 Comments:
Life can be quite complex. I wish there were words of wisdom to give you. All I can say is be true to yourself and value good friends. They are very special.
By talentedone, Jun 02 08 1:26 PM
Good for you! I'm glad you and your friend worked it out! As for Divya, best wished for her to not lose a friend.
By NIPPER10, Jun 02 08 9:26 PM
That's great news Sid. Basically it boils to the fact that honesty always pays, at least when it comes to friendships or relationships. Even if Divya can only communicate with this other person online she should still tell him how she really feels. A person can't force another into loving him. That is just silly. It could actually drive the other person away instead.
I'm so glad you got your little misunderstandings out in the open. That is really important! It took me a while to learn that lesson.
Best of luck with everything. And BTW, regardless of what you say, your grades are excellent across the board!
By Squisher, Jun 03 08 2:19 PM