What Can I Do?
7/7/08-19:27
One of my friends is really upset and I'm pretty sure it's all my fault.
Mainly because I'm going out with someone he doesn't really like and he was always fine until he found out.
He keeps saying he's not important and I shouldn't care about him. That's kind of my fault because the 't' button on my keyboard doesn't work so when I type' It don't matter' very quickly it comes out as 'I don't matter', which is what he keeps saying. I don't know if he did that before but still.
He says he fails at everything which isn't true. I would give examples but we've only been friends recently and I don't know him that well.
I'm convinced he hates me. I get on everyone's nerves I can tell. He never talks to me when he's upset. He won't tell me what's wrong. Even he he did I wouldn't know what to do or say. I'm a cr*p friend. No wonder he hates me.
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One of my friends is really upset and I'm pretty sure it's all my fault.
Mainly because I'm going out with someone he doesn't really like and he was always fine until he found out.
He keeps saying he's not important and I shouldn't care about him. That's kind of my fault because the 't' button on my keyboard doesn't work so when I type' It don't matter' very quickly it comes out as 'I don't matter', which is what he keeps saying. I don't know if he did that before but still.
He says he fails at everything which isn't true. I would give examples but we've only been friends recently and I don't know him that well.
I'm convinced he hates me. I get on everyone's nerves I can tell. He never talks to me when he's upset. He won't tell me what's wrong. Even he he did I wouldn't know what to do or say. I'm a cr*p friend. No wonder he hates me.
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6 Comments:
Maybe he's jealous. It's not that your a crap friend, there's no such thing. Friends are friends no matter what. Talk about something else, if he doesn't want to tell you what's bothering him. All you can do is be a friend, you can't drag it out of him.
Keep us posted.
By rayven80, Jul 07 08 2:22 PM
I've tried talking about other stuff but he never replies. He just shrugs and looks down. But I don't want to ignore him cuz that's mean :/
By cheekymunkysm, Jul 07 08 2:29 PM
No meaner than emotional blackmail.
How manipulative is this boy? Sounds to me like he has spotted your kindness, been grateful for your friendship, and is so insecure that he wants you all to himself.
To achieve this, he will send you on guilt trips because of his needs, not yours, so that you will carry on trying to be the friend he wants, and work to stop him sulking; and will attempt to convince you that you are worthless, and nobody else will want to be your friend.
Don't let his neediness destroy you. Tell me I'm wrong!
By lesley153, Jul 08 08 12:37 PM
PS What has he got against the boy you're going out with? Nothing, I bet, except that he is going out with you. If he has a problem, he owes it to you, as a friend, to tell you. Bet he can't.
By lesley153, Jul 08 08 12:38 PM
Wait a minute...you feel you are a cr*p friend? Then why would you care what anyone thinks. So, you are a good friend.
If your friend is jealous or afraid you won't have any time for him anymore, then he needs to tell you. By keeping quiet about what is bothering him, he is being mean to you. Ask yourself, would a real friend avoid telling you why they are upset.
You cannot please everyone, trust me on that point. Live your life. Don't let others live it for you.
By talentedone, Jul 10 08 3:51 PM
Thanks :)
By cheekymunkysm, Jul 12 08 11:09 AM