I am a puny little kid who cant defend myself for peanuts. I get bullied plenty of times. The bullies here take my shoes tie them into hard to take open knots, hold me upside down by my legs, tease me and throw things at me. They often throw things at dogs which i hate. What should i do??

Learn karaté or fencing. Fencing is very useful!!! ^_^


Your options:
a. Learn karaté or fencing.
b. Skip school. (which I don't recommend)
c. Run Away from them
d. Hire a bodyguard.

About the only thing easy to do is run away from them ^_^_^

There was a movie made back in the late seventies or early eightes called "The Bodyguard". It was about a young boy in school being picked on by others so he hires a big guy at school to be his bodyguard. Cute movie. Maybe it's not a bad idea.

Or, just try to steer clear of the bullies. If they can't find you, they can't hurt you.

Binky, I'm so sorry. It's terrible being bullied, and I remember it well. Kids made fun of me for everything including being redheaded, too small, too skinny, too pale, a 'teacher's pet', having discoloured teeth...the put-downs were endless, and they all caused me immense pain.

I remember one day, a particularly nasty (and older) girl on the school bus was taunting me about my teeth, and the fact that I sat with my legs crossed (?!). When I tried to ignore her, she grabbed my arm and twisted it, keeping me from leaving at my stop. When I finally got off a few stops later, I had to walk several blocks back to my house (crying, of course--I was, and still am, quite sensitive). My dad gave me a bit of advice that I DON'T NECESSARILY RECOMMEND, but it certainly worked for me. He said (and I can't quote verbatim, for obvious reasons): "Tell her to go f*** herself".

The next day on the bus, when she started teasing me, I turned around in my seat and repeated the phrase. She backed right off and didn't bother me again. Often ignoring bullies doesn't work at all, and unfair as it is, sometimes you have to confront them, and let them know you are not afraid. If that doesn't work, then I recommend you get help. Have your friends around you when you can. Alert a teacher to the situation. Many schools have much more awareness about--and much less tolerance for--bullying. If the situation is not resolved, or becomes even worse, ask your parents about other scholastic options like switching schools or even home schooling. I strongly advise you let your parents know what's going on, even if it is a little embarrassing to tell them. Who knows? They may have even gone through this themselves.

In the meantime, the good news is that you WILL likely grow out of it eventually. I was always the runt in my class, and I shot up to five feet ten! Even if you don't grow physically to the extent you'd like, you will grow emotionally and intellectually, and be better equipped to handle the attacks. Remember, also, that most kids are bullied at some point. You are not alone. In my experience, the perpetrators are often acting out rage at their own unhappy environments. That's little consolation, I know, but I'd bet you wouldn't want to switch homes with most of them.

By the way, as an aside, I've met the actor who starred in 'My Bodyguard', Chris Makepeace. He may have been bullied as a kid, but he was all confidence when he approached me, believe me. Even celebrities have been on the wrong side of a bully. Here's a link that shows just that, and provides some other tips for coping: Bullying Site

Good luck, and try to stay safe.

Magpie - dead(I hope not) right - it is a matter of confidence and making friends (I'm still a shorty, blow away in the wind build) but my mates were 6 foot+ tall and built like the proverbial out-houses (pussycats to a man but never mind) but I never seemed to have any trouble - in fact I was the one who most often diffused the situation by offering to run away (I was by far the quicker runner)!
Bullies can't be beaten by individuals on their own,one to one, but if two or more bullied people get together with others who disagree with thebully, the bully will think twice - (No violence required or necessary) - the target is no longer an easy one, bullies are usually intellectually challenged in the first place and having to respond to more than one person at a time is beyond their ability.
Admit your being bullied - tell a parent, teacher, advisor, mentor, priest, policeman (someone in authority) who it is that's bullying you (forget the schoolboy code of honour, there isn't one!If the bully could put you in trouble instead of themselves THEY WOULD!) - they may not beleive it at first but if the bullying continues then continue with your complaints - eventually you'll win through - don't let the bully win!
Edited to add - the bully will always have his "Gang" to back him up - on his/her own they won't cause any trouble - isolate the gang leader by exposing him/her (to the authorities) and the gang will disappear(self preservation rules!).

Yeah, get bullied. This is a unique type of bully (and unusual). So, people really tease me (yes, that is bullying in a way) by saying "I like your tie!". It annoys me alot! Ignoring doesn't help either.

So, I have some decisions I should do:
a. Leave school
b. Disguising as someone else
c. Stay hidden
d. Report everyone to the headteacher (second thought, nah!).

I got bullied a lot when I was younger, my parents and teachers always told me to ignore the bullies and they would go away but that never worked for me. Finally I hit upon something that worked quite well. This is how it worked: for example, if a bully had tied my shoes into hard to untitie knots, I would have said something like "congraulations! you finally learned how to tie shoes! Your mommy must be very proud!" A few sarcastic comments like that and some of them learned to back off.

Bullies come in all shapes and sizes, and it's not something that's restricted to schoolyard playgrounds. There's bullies in sport and in the workplace, almost everywhere you go in life you'll have to confront the proverbial bully - and confront you must. You've heard of the quote "go and pick on someone your own size." A bully won't. They are basically gutless creatures who prey on smaller or less fortunate people then themselves as an ego boost for their own short comings. Standup for yourself and confront the ring leader. It doesn't always need to be a physical confrontation as Geek suggested. Make yourself a harder target. The bully will soon move on to an easier one.

We had a great bully at school who terrorised everyone. No one was game to look at this kid sideways. He would give special daily treatment to this runty little Chinese kid but pushed him too far one day. The Chinese kid flipped out and gave the bully the flogging of a life time, in front of everyone. It was great to watch and ended this bullies three year reign of terror in a minute. He ended up having to leave the school because everyone wanted a piece of him after that.

When I was at school, there was this one really mean bully (a pretty strong one at that too.)
To maintain his physical structure, he needed a lot of food. He used to bring sufficent food to class but somehow he was getting more and more greedy day by day.

To steal food from others,he came with this really innovative idea. He would sit next to a puny student in class and accuse him of sneezing and farting.

Of course, the others wouldn't have anything to do with him and usually let him hit the kid and 'steal' his food.

By the time I left school, he was virtually ignored by everyone (except a few of his croonies).

This had a profound impact on him......


I have been trying to find his whereabouts thougH I have no clue.......

I've hardly ever been bullied, mainly because of my height...I guess beind tall does have its advantages...

As Bertho said, it is not just in the school yard that bullying takes place.

The reason I am posting this in the middle of the day from my home computer is because I have been given two days stress leave after having been bullied by the Deputy Director of the organisation I work for.

A most timely thread to be posting to. Although I am in the lower echelons of the organisation (which is equivalent of being the puny kid) I have issues that need to be addressed by the upper echelons of the organisation . If I can be brow-beaten then they will have achieved what they want. This is exactly the same as what goes on in the school yard just a lot less physical.

Unfortunately magpie I can't say what your father recommended. I just excused myself from the meeting instead.

Yes I've been bullied. Two instances of it were particularly memorable.

I was a very asthmatic kid. There wasn't the good inhalers and drugs around to treat it that there are now. Mostly, I just had to put up with it. I'd no energy for anything, including looking after myself. At the age of eight I got sent to boarding school that claimed success in helping children like me.

It was proper a rat race in there. Lots of boys being all in together spawned alot of bullying. I can get quite upset thinking about what one poor kid was subjected to. I got picked on myself a few times but not after this incident:

A 'big kid' took exception to something I'd said. He pinned me against the wall gave me a bash and asked me to take it back. I was stubborn if nothing else and I refused. For the next hour or so he bashed me and suggested strongly that I back down. It was one bash per refusal. It drew quite a crowd in the end. As time went on the tears arrived (I was only eight). After a while, the other boys went from encouraging the bully, to asking him to stop hitting me. The pressure on him from the other kids became so great that he eventually stopped. It was me who came away from the incident with comfort and pats on the back for standing up to the bloke (within my capabilities at the time anyway). I never got bullied again at that school after that.

Normal school: A boy reputed to be the best fighter in the school kept 'taking the micky' over some trousers my parents had got me. They were corduroy ones that went baggy a few days after they were bought. My parents were in no position to buy me some other ones. He kept on about the trousers for weeks, along with making fun of my name and any physical attributes he could think of.

One day I simply cracked and quite literally saw red (really!). He'd just pushed me too far I suppose. I don't remember flying at him but we ended up in a 'dust-up' in the middle of the playground. There was no spectacular win. I can't even remember how the fight went. It ended up in a deadlock with him asking if we could more or less call it a draw. A nod from me was all it took for us to seperate. He stopped his bullying after that.

Having been the subject of bullying I tend to take a pretty dim view of anyone, child or adult, who takes pleasure in it and have been known to step in and diplomatically defuse some bad situations a few times.

I agree with Tellywellies.. there are several ways to be bullied. I was never physicall intimidated but I have had people attempt to verbally jab at me in order to create havoc. I find the best way to ignore such a bully is to ignore them.

Thanks for the advice everyone. I shall keep all your advice in mind the next time I get bullied.

I guess it's not so much advice from some of us as just describing incidents of bullying we have experienced. Maybe it helps to read about them and know that you are not alone. Many of us have gone through bullying to some degree or another. I think 'gone through' is a good term. It means that it does come to an end.

Actual advice is difficult because the circumstances and the personalities of the people involved differ from case to case. I hope you find your way around it soon.

Wow those stories are eye opening.
Over here all the schools have a No Bully Policy and when reported the bullies are dealt with by the School and the Police if it is a severe problem.
We have had a number of young and I mean young kids commit suicide as a result of being bullied in school. There have even been murder charges laid against a few of the bullies and they will have to serve time.
I don't understand why your school officials or your parents can't do anything to try and help you.
Well you know what they say what goes around comes around and some day the bullies will be on the receiving end we can hope.

My god, PurpleFan, I never realized the situation was so serious! In India, suicides due to bullying at school are unheard of. However, those due to academic failures are common.

Yes harish_256 it has gotten bad.
In the last few years with a 11 year old girl who hung herself, a 16 year old girl who was beaten to death,
a 14 year old boy who couldn't take it anymore and jumped off a bridge to his death, another 12 year old who hung herself and it goes on and on and on.

It is a sad reflection on society when our friends and neighbours children can't or won't report bullies because they knew nothing would be done.
That is why the authorities here have put into place strict enforcement policies to try and stop this in our schools.
I only wish it was the same all over the world. I hope those who are being bullied or know someone who is being bullied will ask for help from a parent or a teacher or someone who can help. PF

Bullying deaths are uncommon in India but Ragging (a more group-oriented and organised form of Bullying) leads to deaths.

With stringent anti-ragging laws now (India), It's on the decrease.

As we say, "Wait till you get to college....."

When i was in junior high school I was teased & made fun of cause i was pretty bad at sports as well as being pretty darn
ugly. I improved at sports quickly enough but I sure can't say that about my looks. I didn't get physically bullied, even though i was pretty thin & not too strong, I was able to cast a really sinister psycho look at people- and i think that frightened some people away. But the teasing bothered me enough that I shied away from everyone, and really didn't make any friends at school during junior high (or senior high school, for that matter).

The teasing ended after I decided to join them teasing me. One joke about my looks was particularly funny, i had to admit, so i figured i could come up with a better self-insult. The self-depreciation jokes were a hit at first. I think i actually won the respect of that crowd that got their laughs by belittling me by showing i could better them at their own game. They soon tired of my own jokes about me, and tired of me as well, so they moved on to other luckless students.

Unfortunately at the time, I didn't recognize that once the teasing stopped that I should've joined in with school activity &
make friends and such. Instead I continued with the self-depreciation humor (stupid me) and became the quiet loner kid who kept to himself.

Anyhow, good luck, binky34, hope you find a way to beat the bullies on your own terms.