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Now let's hear from the rest of you who have snuck in to look and then crept out again!

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Lol, I really don`t care what women [nor men] think about when it comes to MY hair. It`s very slowly receding and I`m hoping that it will reach a point where it stops, as my grandfathers did, and just stay right on top where it belongs.
To be bald would shatter me for I have always had fairly longish curly hair that people have admired and even desired. If I was actually losing it at an excessive rate I would spent vast amounts of money to keep it.
At the age of forty I`m pretty pleased that I have the hair that I have.
I`m shallow and proud of it.

I wouldn't be too worried Roos, I read somewhere once that if you're not completely bald by the time you're 30 (or thereabouts) then you never will be. I'm sure it was somewhere slightly more authoritative than the back of a cereal box, too...or it was at least a high-fibre one!

Anyway, to Roos and any other men out there, at least you know now that we (being females) really don't care about bald pates and any attempts you make to hide it or slow the inevitable is done purely for yourselves, and not for us women!

Now it could be time for a thread about our weight and struggles to reduce it! See new thread.

I'm a bit thinner and more grey on top than I used to be but still have enough to keep my head warm on those cold winter cycle rides. Embarassingly, there was a couple of times that, during totally unrelated converstions, I'd be told my hair was 'nice'. 'Nice' is not what a bloke's hair is supposed to be but it just blinkin' grew that way! This was before the days of close cropped hair, so I never thought to just cut it off. Ah well ..at least there's one lady who still thinks the mop is OK.

The ageing hair process. [Link]

I think that's how a lot of us feel, TW. Even after my husband started losing his hair, he was still the same amazing man to me.I wouldn't have traded him for all the Orlandos or Johnny Depps in the world.

Hee, hee - that at 18 looks more like a rug! Take it from me, you are looking better at 60 (hairwise).

My dad is one of those that started to lose his hair at an early age and did the dreadful comb-over for years. Last year he finally got tired of it all and just shaved his head so that now he has a very small light fuzz which he (and my mom ) really like. In answer to the question "what do bald people put on their driver's licenses under hair color?" The answer my dad gave -"clear".

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In answer to the question "what do bald people put on their driver's licenses under hair color?" The answer my dad gave -"clear".

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That's hilarious! Your Dad must have a great sense of humour.

Well, as I was reading today's Times and saw hundreds of dating ads, I looked through the women's ones, and out of 103, 15 mentioned they wanted a tall man, almost 15%. And about 5 said over 6'. I don't know if that's more or less than everyone expected, but actually a bit lower than I remember maybe 15 years or more ago. But maybe there are a few closet heightists amongst them who won't dare to say anything but see their face drop if I or anyone similar turned up at the rendezvous and (as happened a number of times to myself and others) suddenly developed a headache, or worse still came and went the minute they spotted you.

I was the victim of the waiting for Godot routine rather than the sudden headache which others have encountered, and of course it could have been for a million other reasons than height the few times it happened to me (though some had already seen my picture so unlikely to be my appearance), and I'm sure I also saw them spot me from a distance and head in the opposite direction as I'd already seen their pictures as well! The world can be a cruel place at times...

The world can be horribly cruel Guru, but I say yet again (as have so many others) that you are lucky you are weeding out the women who just don't deserve you!

My dad is a famous comb-over artist. He had a thick head of curly black hair well before I ever knew him, but by the time I was born he was 43, and there wasn't much left.
For a few years, at about age 55, he wore a toupee. This is easier said than done - I don't know how they hold them on now, but in those days it was two sided tape, so he had to shave off what little hair he had up top so it wouldn't hurt to take the toupee off.
Then he heard that regular treatments of ultraviolet light would make hair grow, so he bought a special lamp, and would give himself secret (ha - secret in a house full of teenagers!) treatments with it.
Eventually he gave up and went with the comb-over. His hair in the back is at least 10 inches long, starts at the back of the neck. On a windy day he is quite something to see.
Every now and then one of us will say how attractive we find bald men, etc, but he is convinced he looks great, and who are we to disabuse him?
My mother was not sympathetic, I'm sorry to say. Her own father had a full head of hair into his 80's and she managed to find occasion to say so quite often. She would also make quite vocal fun of his little 'treatments'. (remind me again, David, WHY is it that you are looking for a lifetime partner?)

Thanks Ing, my confidence always rises after coming in here! Mind you, why I am looking for a lifetime partner is very easy to answer. The few times I've been with someone who felt right I felt really alive. The rest of the time I just seem to be passing the time till I meet someone again. It's like switching the TV from black and white to colour in quality. I try not to dwell on it much nowadays as I do get used to it eventually, but am ready if the time comes for me.

Regarding the height, I used to get the impression when reading these ads that many of the women would take the nastiest, ugliest idiots as long as they were over 6'. And in some cases I was probably right. Mind you, short TV actors seem to get away with it more as women see them first there and once they like them are less likely to then be put off if they aren't as tall as expected.

I suppose the equivalent (I don't really look of course but have noticed it) is men looking for slim women. That was never on my list though. Another quality many men look for is the obvious oversized pair (you know what I mean), and that never interested me either. It's about quality not quantity in all departments for me.

As a man who started receding at about 20, but at 44 hasn't receded any further (despite it thinning), I've got to say I hate those petrol stations that have a camera above and behind you and a monitor behind the counter that you can see (are you with me?). I thought I was doing doing alright until I was at the counter of one of these petrol stations, looked at the monitor and thought "I'm the only on here, so who's the guy with the big bald patch", when it hit me!

I will just carry on as normal, regardless. I also hate people who try to change what they are. Comb overs, rugs and that stupid spray on hair, just makes me laugh. I told my wife that when I end up with a "Friar Tuck", I'd shave my head and grow a big beard, but she told me if I did that, she'd leave me (but I bet she won't, when I do it anyway )

My husband was using a type of shampoo that was supposed to stimulate regrowth for a while. I know this works for some people, and that's great, but it didn't work for my husband, and it isn't exactly cheap, although he has a friend in the salon industry, so was able to get it at wholesale price, but still, it wasn't worth the money for him, so he stopped using it. I'm not sure whether he was disappointed or not. Since he's been losing his hair since he was a teenager, I think he's probably resigned to it by now.

I will say, and obviously there are many reasons for this, he wears a lot of hats. He almost always has a ball-cap on, or his Stetson cowboy hat when we go out. (If we go out to dinner, he takes off his hat. ) He does have sensitive eyes, and I know that the hats are protection against the sun for his bald spot too, but I think perhaps a little part of the reason he wears them is because with a hat on, he doesn't look like he's going bald.

Now if only my grey hairs were in the middle of the back of my head instead of my bangs and temples, I could just buy a bunch of ball caps and no one would be the wiser.

I know a chap who has been very bald for many years. I've never seen anyone attract the ladies like he can though. Many have been a good few years younger than he is too. I wouldn't say he is particularly an 'Adonis' in other respects. He just seems to have the personality and 'chat' for it I suppose. This kind of backs up what people are saying here. Baldness doesn't make a scrap of difference to physical attraction.

I don't agree, baldness just like any other personal characteristic, will make a difference to many people. Other characteristics, such as confidence, or amusing and cheerful personality will inevitably overcome any physical weaknesses, and to most intelligent people these will be the most important.
Politicians, actors and others in the public domain need to appeal to as wide an audience as possible, including the 'less intelligent', and it is here that physical attributes can make a difference. You only need to look at the movie industry as an example. There are great actors and actresses, who are simply brilliant and command respect from everyone, and others who rely almost entirely on their good looks, without which they'd be nobody.

Now this is interesting- who remembers this one? (quite a few on this thread for sure!)

What FT members look for in a partner.

And I wonder if many have changed their opinions since then? I'll say now Lanni was right in my case, I've got it narrowed down to about three- chemistry, easy going and sense of humour- years of narrowing down to what's really important. Maybe this would be a good place to reply to the other list, or maybe start a fresh one, I'll leave that to 'the management'

Mine's changed. I just want Hugh Jackman now.

Oh Copago, how I want to add my Hugh J. jokes now but won't... (the type Bart Simpson would use when calling the barman!). If I had a Hugh Jackman you could swap him for a Kirsty Allsop (as she's still not quite married yet!). Now we'll both have to google the names, as I haven't the foggiest who Hugh Jackman is!

OK, saved everyone the work! Kirsty Allsop. For some reason that appears to be the only picture of her on the net. Very odd.