First, let me tell you that I feel for you.
I gave up work when I got married and the work that I did at that time no longer exists. When I was in my early 40s I decided that I just couldn't continue in my very unhappy marriage so we split up. My children, at that time, were eleven and nine. My ex did make provision for us, not to live in luxury, but I could remain at home for a while. What I did was to take some courses to give me some skills, word processing etc. I then volunteered to get me used to doing something other than sitting at home, it would also give me some form of reference. In my case this voluntary work actually led to part time, then fulltime work.
Now, after my illness last year, I find myself back in much the same situation, but worse. I lost my job and when you are fifty-eight and that job was specialised, AND you have had a prolonged period of serious illness, the prospect of re-training and trying to find work is daunting to put it mildly. On the plus side, I am only fourteen months off retirement age so I am not going to try too hard to find work.
I have no idea as to the rights you will have under Australian matrimonial law, whether he will be forced to support your children and split assets, you are going to have to find that out. If you haven't done so, get some legal advice. In Australia you have Citizens Advice Bureaux, visit your local one for information.
You appear to be computer literate so that is a start. Presumably you will have something like a 'job centre' in Australia, if so visit them. Certainly here people like you could be given some training and they will help in mock interviews, preparing CVs and will try to place you.
You don't say the ages of your children, you mention eighteen years so hopefully they are both older rather than younger so you will not have to cope with trying to find child care. I did some temporary work recently and employers will train people in their late fifties, you certainly will not be too old.
Edited by sue943 (Tue Sep 19 2006 11:27 AM)
Many a child has been spoiled because you can't spank a Grandma!