I use a bit when I ride.
I can also ride my horse without anything on her-no saddle, no bridle, no halter-nothing, but when I ride on the trails or road, I ride with a bit for both my safety, her safety and the safety of everyone around us.
The bit I use isn't painful, either. She neck-rains, and responds to vocal commands, and commands of my seat.
I never forced her to learn anything-she was wild when I started her at the age of 6-almost no human contact other than a brief feeding here and there. I started her easy-she was tied up, and groomed, first her neck, then the rest of her body. At the beginning, she just fought-bit, kicked etc. Then, it was like a light turned on. I wasn't hurting her-what I was doing felt good, she also liked the treats and the kind words. There was no pain-only good stuff to look forward to. After the light turned on, I couldn't scrape her off me with a stick. She broke out of her pasture to be with me. I was going to take another mare out because I didn't believe she was trail-safe, and she knew she was. She was good as gold.
She was one of my best friends-and I could do anything with her.
But I used a bit.
Morrigan