Without Ever AskingAs the Civil War raged on, Abraham Lincoln summoned an old friend and neighbor from Springfield Illinois to discuss a problem.
"The old neighbor called at the White House, and Lincoln talked to him for hours about the advisability of issuing a proclamation freeing the slaves. Lincoln went over all the arguments for and against such a move, and then read letters and newspaper articles, some denouncing him for not freeing the slaves and others denouncing him for fear he was going to free them. After talking for hours, Lincoln shook hands with his old neighbor, said good night, and sent him back to Illinois without even asking for his opinion...
There are times when someone needs your opinion. And there are times when they just need you to listen.