Hi Sandalwood....geez, tell me about it! I have exactly the same problem, my hair has a mind of it's own. I have tried all sorts of things, about 6 months ago when I was having my hair cut I asked the stylist if she could recommend something to help me deal with the ' frizzies ' she told me I probably wouldn't have any bother with my hair when all of the perm had grown out....hmmmm....well, I haven't had my hair permed since 1992 and since my hair is barely touching the top of my shoulders, I really think the perm is long gone!!!
I bought a styling product for about $20 from the salon, you use it before blow drying your hair ( I like to blow dry my hair straight )anyway, that was at least 6 months ago and I still have a lot left, so, it's not really expensive when you consider I use it almost every day. It does make a difference too, my hair doesn't frizz up even on the most humid or rainy day.
I don't know if you have ' Wella ' styling products available in the states, but, I'm sure you could get something similar from a salon, this product is simply known as
' straightener ' ( sounds too easy doesn't it? lol ), other than that all I can suggest is perhaps you do like I do at times and pretend you have a perm! One lady sitting near me in the salon when I had my hair cut a few weeks back said to me ' oh, you have such a natural looking perm ' I just thanked her and grinned, she had a head full of perming rods and smelled like swimming pool chemicals....lol...I bet it cost her $75 bucks too for her ' frizz head '
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