Subject: "Respect for the Disabled"
Posted by: lesley153
Date: Dec 18 12
There's nothing like walking a mile in someone else's shoes or, in this case, hobbling a mile on someone else's crutches.
"10 Reasons Using Crutches Gave Me More Respect for the Disabled"
http://www.care2.com/causes/10-reasons-using-crutches-gave-me-more-respect-for-the-disabled.html
I rather like this one:
7. There is often a reason people walk slowly, besides that they are idiots texting and ignoring the world around them...
From being a fast walker who sees slow walkers as obstacles to their self-important impatience, the writer is now one of them. Perhaps she could have a little word with the cretins who populate the Facebook group for people who want to punch slow walkers in the back of the head.
Posted by: lesley153
Date: Dec 18 12
There's nothing like walking a mile in someone else's shoes or, in this case, hobbling a mile on someone else's crutches.
"10 Reasons Using Crutches Gave Me More Respect for the Disabled"
http://www.care2.com/causes/10-reasons-using-crutches-gave-me-more-respect-for-the-disabled.htmlI rather like this one:
7. There is often a reason people walk slowly, besides that they are idiots texting and ignoring the world around them...
From being a fast walker who sees slow walkers as obstacles to their self-important impatience, the writer is now one of them. Perhaps she could have a little word with the cretins who populate the Facebook group for people who want to punch slow walkers in the back of the head.
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veronikkamarrz
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Great article. I'm sure I would have to find a way to shower...Alone!;) Crutches are very dangerous, and you don't get any 'training' before you use them. Reply #1. Dec 18 12, 12:07 PM |
lesley153
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You don't, do you? I hadn't thought of that! Reply #2. Dec 18 12, 2:29 PM |
blindcat78 
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I respect all types of disabilities since I'm one myself. I'm blind with a little bit of a balance problem. Reply #3. Dec 23 12, 4:16 PM |
Greatguggly
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Crutches become even more dangerous if you've been drinking. I found that out the hard way. Reply #4. Dec 23 12, 11:16 PM |
Aussiedrongo
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I can't agree with this persons first point. My daughter broke her leg earlier this year and underwent surgery to have two screws inserted. She spent three months on crutches with her leg first plastered, then with the same type of boot that this person speaks of. Showing maturity beyond her eleven years of life, my daughter never once asked for assistance in doing anything and politely declined offers that were made. Any challenges she faced, she resolved them herself in a way that was comfortable for her in her condition. Glasses of water, or any other beverage, became a plastic bottle with the cap screwed on when carrying from the kitchen to another room. Now if an eleven year old can figure that out surely the person who wrote this, who I assume is an adult because she mentions driving, could have figured out the same. Life throws all sorts of challenges our way and it's how we face and deal with these challenges that makes us the people we are. I'm extremely proud of my daughter for the way that she faced this challenge at such a young age, never grumbled, never complained and never once sat on a couch all day feeling a sense of being useless. Reply #5. Dec 25 12, 9:13 PM |
romeomikegolf
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'6. People are patronizing:' Just like the article. A disability doesn't have to be physical or visible. There are millions of people that have conditions that are disabling but there is no outward sign. Depression is one and my own problem, Tourettes, is another. I wish everyone would just respect each other, disability or not. This planet may then be a more pleasant place to live. Reply #6. Dec 30 12, 4:38 AM |
Jabberwok
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I agree with her last point though, if you are temporarily disabled then it's nothing but a small taste of what life is like for those that have a life-long disability. I hear you too RMG, my son has Asperger's syndrome, which in the states is known as HFA. Invisible, but it is the lens through which he lives his life and a bit of tolerance for difference is often lacking in others. Which I find hard to forgive. Reply #7. Dec 30 12, 5:19 AM |
Mommakat
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I have been confronted with some difficult people at times, but generally most want only to help and it is appreciated. Reply #8. Dec 30 12, 5:45 AM |
satguru
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As a born phobic the one thing we hear all the time is 'Force yourself' and variations like 'You can do it' and 'Why don't you try and do it?'. And sometimes even other phobics do, as yours is different from theirs and they think as they can everyone else should. Every single person is different and if they could fix whatever they can't do they would have already and no doubt if possible are still trying to. But the only thing people need to do is accept some people can't cope with certain situations and let them not do them rather than nag them or worse still reject them. If I have a friend it's for them as a person, not whether they can come to a cinema or restaurant with me. You wouldn't drag a housebound person to the theatre as you thought they should expand their abilities, so why do it with a phobic? Lesson over. Reply #9. Dec 30 12, 8:18 PM |
Ceistenna
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Does any UK members watch 'The Last Leg'? It began on Channel4 during the paralympics as 3 comedians (two of which have a disability) taking a humours look back at the days events. There was a end of year special last week which had me in laughing out loud One of the segments was called "Is it ok?" whereby people asked what type of things it's ok to ask someone with a disability. Some questions where hillarioius while others were just scarily ignorant. I just thought it was a good positive way of highlighting some of the daily endurances faced by people with disabilities. Hope Channel4 bring it back and not just shelve it now the paralympics are over - that would not be ok! Reply #10. Jan 03 13, 11:39 AM |
| lesley153
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Aussiedrongo, according to her facebook page, she finished high school in 1990, so she's probably about 40. "... a bit of tolerance for difference is often lacking in others..." Beautifully put, Jabberwok. Not only in real life but I think that applies to the written word too. Some people can do things that other people can't. Reply #11. Jan 06 13, 6:28 PM |
| lesley153
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Caistenna, thank you for mentioning the programme. It's on 4OD. http://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-last-leg-of-the-year/4od Reply #12. Jan 06 13, 6:32 PM |
| lesley153
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Typo - sorry! Reply #13. Jan 06 13, 6:36 PM |
| Jabberwok
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Thank you lesley. Satguru, I have made a similar point to your observations to Boy's teachers on occasion. Usually new ones. Boy could cope well in mainstream education with several reasonable accommodations for his needs. Nothing complicated, but necessary, and with that support he presented as 'normal' (Or mundane as it is known in our family)in most situations. So then you'd get a teacher who couldn't be bothered or didn't see the need or felt that they knew better, and they didn't follow the guidelines. Suddenly they'd have an explosive situation that was completely out of control. Then I'd have to come in and deal with the fallout, and every time I could trace the fuse easily. My father has diabetes and injects insulin regularly, as well as all the other dietary needs and whatnot. No one ever says to him 'You are managing so well, I'm sure you don't really need all that medication. Let's not bother' So why do it with someone whose needs are environmental adaptations, and then be surprised at the consequences? Fortunately Boy's teachers were mostly very reasonable. Except PE and sports. They never quite got it. Reply #14. Jan 06 13, 7:10 PM |
| Ceistenna
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It's such a shame that many schools haven't quite managed to intergrate students with a disability into PE classes. I've been involved in wheelchair sport for over 25 years and it's always great to see the junior sections getting so much joy out of participating in sport - particularly team activities. Our motto has always been "Focus on Ability", after all what the point in putting limitations on yourself there's plenty of people who will do that for you. Sadly that doesn't just apply to people with disabilities. Reply #15. Jan 07 13, 2:19 AM |
| beachbumb101
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The article was a great article however, I don't necessarily agree with all ten reasons especially the first one and trhe one where the person stated that she sat on the couch for days out of fear. I am legally blind and have been for all my life but I am also very independent. :) If I were on cruches and used my cain, I would still be able to do everything I do now, it would take alot longwr and frustrate me though. There are always going to be people who are ignorant and feel sympathy for people with disabilities but it's how you deal with it that matters. Reply #16. Jan 18 13, 4:54 PM |
bob114
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A very well written article by someone who now has been there. Some years ago while in a mall, I noticed a young man in a wheelchair with I'm guessing his parents. He had an obvious disability. I'm kicking my self for not going up to them and saying hello. It won't happen again. Reply #17. Mar 04 13, 9:44 AM |
Professer
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A very good article indeed, am disabled myself use a stick to get by am sometimes a bit tottery, i find majority of people helpful and not patronising though some are, I am a stubbon person and do politely refuse help as i want to do the best i can on my own, Today i returned a couple of boxes to a friend who makes me a tea loaf now and then also a lemon drizzle cake, she said if i returned in 10 minuutes i could have a fresh out of oven tea loaf, i did return and i heard a crash she said open the door is unlocked , so opened it and she was lying on the floor, now would have been a struggle to help her up from postion she was in and her husband was out in the car. i got her to roll on her side to start with then offered my stick so she could help herself up she got on to her knees and i took her arm and with me staeding her and the stick she got up and was fine a bruise on her leg, her two dogs were visibly shaken and stayed beside her, the same ones that push against me when i am stood talking to my friends to stop me falling. Just spoke to her husband does not know how she fell and is taking her to see doctor tmw. I did manage to assist her up and she was grateful but did refuse when i offered to ring for a ambulance. i will call again tmw see how she is. I know myself how difficult it is to get up when you fall. Reply #18. Mar 04 13, 10:19 AM |
| lesley153
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Delayed reaction to beachbumb: I doubt that anyone will agree with all ten. And I think it hit her hard because she had always been fit and quick, with the arrogance and impatience, and just really general thoughtless selfishness, that so often accompany being fit and quick. Let us give her some credit for being open about the shock of sudden disability, and hope that her article may make one or two people start thinking. Reply #19. Mar 04 13, 10:25 AM |
| Professer
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Witnessed today the utter disrespect for the disabled and elderly, getting the first bus to get to town before swapping for one to asda, the two seats either side of aisle at front of bus have a notice saying please give up these seats to disabled or elderly, getting on the bus no seats available and not one of the people sat in the seats with notice moved to offer a seat, elderly lady got up and offered her seat which i declined even though i heavily rely on a stick now. Someone said to driver about it and he said he could do nothing. End of story was pure amazement a brutish looking lad moved from where he was sat and said oi you lot whats that sign say they told him so he said right move you should offer that guy a seat one of them reluctantly moved and he pointed at the other and told him he'd see him later when he called to see his dad and to tell his dad he was disgusted way they lad did not do as sign requested lad was pleading for him not to. the thing is the driver should have done what the lad did he could have just refused to move the bus till they moved. AS i was on second bus i saw the lad berating a bus inspector so think more will happen. Reply #20. Mar 07 13, 6:02 AM |
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